Humiliation in BDSM

I have doled it out, and I have been the recipient. Though I do not classify myself as strictly domme, it is a huge compliment when I am dubbed a humiliatrix. You see, many submissives crave emotional pain, as it is even more powerful than physical pain. No matter how hard you cane somebody the great flashes of pain leave as quickly as they come. When somebody humiliates you the pain is felt again and again and again. It embeds itself into your brain. Emotional pain sluts are individuals that are completely rewired like masochistic Pavlovian dogs. Eventually the pain/pleasure combo becomes like a drug leaving the victim totally addicted. Many submissives report that humiliation is the only way they can get off. Though I am quite submissive with some people, I do not enjoy humiliation. Even in dirty talk I will happily call myself their horny slut or degrade myself into nothing but a sex object just for the thrill of the play. This is not humiliation. Humiliation on the BDSM level is so painful because it is grounded in truth. You humiliate their tiny cocks for SPH, otherwise known as small penis humiliation. You can make the pain cut deeper by shaming the rest of their body. You belittle them as a person overall. You create feelings of worthlessness. You completely rob them of all confidence. You destroy their ego entirely. Power is made by power being taken, and that is the underlying appeal to humiliation. Submissives are essentially addicts to the rush of relinquishing power. They crave the experience of subspace. Subspace has been described by many as a state of intoxication brought on by the hormones the body produces when engaged in fight or flight mode, the heightened state brought on by the intense interplay of pain and pleasure. As I previously mentioned, it can be a very dangerous and addictive cocktail.
Many submissives delight in their degradation and truly live the BDSM lifestyle. Others seem to wallow in it and see it as a life sentence or a punishment brought on by a case of bad luck. The reality is luck is just a concept, and sexiness or confidence is just an attitude. Though your brain can suffer from obsessive thoughts, and you can become addicted to subspace, every individual commits to a self-fulfilling prophecy. In the BDSM community, submissives beg for and desire this kind of attention. On the online webcamming community, not only do they beg for it but they pay for it too.
Findom, or financial domination, is another branch of BDSM that ties in quite nicely with humiliation. The emotional self-cutting of begging for humiliation is exaggerated in that their only worth is making you laugh and filling your pockets with their hard-earned cash. Findoms and dommes are essentially living, breathing goddesses that step on the face of their followers, or if the submissive is truly deserving, sat on! Could you imagine experiencing that power so closely? Imagine talking to God yourself and he tells you the cold hard truth of who you are and how powerful he is in comparison. It’s truly captivating. Even Jesus Christ himself could barely stand the light and power of God and ultimately sacrificed himself just to execute his will. Shit’s heavy, isn’t it? Essentially, dommes are God but they don’t ask you to kill yourself, they want you to keep working and living for them. They give their submissive a purpose to live. Now, the only thing harder than dying for somebody is continuing to live for them while in constant pain. Now, in my humble opinion, THAT shit is heavy. With that said, even humiliating a submissive is a form of compassion. You only humiliate those who desire it and you give them pleasure and purpose in doing so. You see, a submissive was submissive before they found their domme. They felt awash in the sea of life and too weak to carry on. They float around until they grab something to hold onto. For true submissives, BDSM is more than therapeutic, it’s their religion, it’s their way of life and it’s the greatest thing that has ever happened to them.

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